My Story: How I Became a Boutique Boss
Posted on September 18 2018
Hi! For those of you who don’t know me, my name is Melody and I am the owner of Rebel Roots Boutique. I am married with 4 kids and an amazing husband! In today's post, I want to share a little bit about me and how owning a boutique came about.
As a kid, I always wore hand me downs from my cousins. My mom was a single mom of 3 kids working very hard to give us what we needed. I remember thinking "I wish I had those new shoes, new purse, new clothes, etc". that everyone else had all the time. Little did I know she was giving me more than I could ever imagine...APPRECIATION! I may not have had all the latest styles or the best of the best, but I got all of life’s lessons that transformed me into the woman I am today.
At the age of 24, I got married to the man I was going to spend the rest of my life with who loved me for me. We have two beautiful girls that are my world! After a few years of ups and downs in our marriage, we realized that we were meant to be together and moved out of our small town so he could pursue a dream. Shortly after getting settled into this new town, knowing absolutely no one, we got our world shaken like we could have never imagined. The 6 letters no one wants to hear: CANCER. Ash, my husband, got diagnosed with Stage 4 Glioblastoma brain cancer.
We were lost, broken, and scared out of our minds. Although I worked a corporate job, he was the sole provider of our family. After 3 long years of battling cancer, he was finally cancer free! This was the absolute best birthday present he could have asked for, and we were so grateful God had answered our prayers.
Unfortunately, joy is sometimes temporary. We found out at his next scan that he developed a rare disease called Leptomeningeal Carcinomatosis. This is where the cancer broke the brain barrier wall and had gone into his spinal fluid. There was no cure and we were given less than 3 months. Watching someone I love physically, mentally, and spiritually deteriorate was the hardest thing I ever had to go through.
After losing him, the next 3 years of my life were literally a blur! I had turned to alcohol and wasn’t making good life decisions at all. I was so lost and scared. How was I going to raise 2 girls that were up and coming teenagers? How was I going to provide them with a vehicle? Who was going to walk them down the aisle on their wedding day? What if something happened to me...who would raise my girls? I was overweight, depressed and I honestly just felt terrible about myself. Looking back, I was definitely feeling sorry for myself!
One day God spoke to me and said, “You can let this control you or you can control it!” That changed my life! He was right. I couldn’t change the situation, but I could change how I was reacting to it. I had to start with changing myself. I decided to join a boot camp with some ladies from church. I lost 40lbs and started feeling better about myself physically and emotionally!
Shortly after a few not-so-good relationship choices, I met my now husband and gained a step son and daughter. I wasn’t looking for a relationship; I was actually done with relationships and had decided it was just going to be my girls and me! But like they say, it always happens when you aren’t looking! He has been one of the best blessings I have ever received. God truly knew we needed each other.
After a short 16 months, we got married and moved to his hometown to get a fresh start. He has not only been a great husband, but he has shown me a love I never really knew… God’s love! I now look at things and situations much different than before. I take care of myself physically, mentally, and spiritually. Each day, I workout at home with Beachbody to clear my mind. I have a daily devotional to learn more about God and help my mindset stay on track. I eat healthier and I truly try to take care of myself for me!
I started this business for a couple reasons. One, I wanted to give our girls a place to learn responsibility, and two, I wanted to offer affordable fashion to others. I have been a single mom and have struggled financially. But what I didn’t realize is how much this business would help me. My employee’s are a part of my family! I love helping them just as much as I love helping my customers. Being a boutique boss is more than making a dollar for me, personally. I look at how I can help that person feel good about themselves, not make a sale. If my customers ask my opinion, I give them the truth. Anyone that knows me will tell you, I have never met a stranger and I am not afraid to talk to anyone. I try to see the best in people and I love to help others succeed.
A few quotes I like to live by:
“Treat people the way you want to be treated.”
“If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.”
“God never gives you more than you can handle.”